You have a huge support group behind you, in front of you and beside you. Mom is an expert. BFF is an expert. Sister is an expert. EVERYONE is an expert. BUT, are they really all experts? Brides planning weddings on your own (and even non-brides planning other events), I am happy that all your “peeps” are available to lend helping hands, expertise and suggestions. They all mean well, but is EVERYONE on the same page. You have Mom telling you to go left, BFF telling you to go right, and Sister telling you don’t go at all. Which way do you go? See how confusing this can be?
If you select to plan your wedding without the assistance of a hired professional, narrow down your pool of “experts”. It’s confusing enough to have to manage it on your own. That last thing you need, is to have to stop and process everyone else’s opinion PLUS your own. After about 2.2 seconds, it become frustrating.
And if you still feel it is necessary to have all these “expert” opinions, bring everyone to the table. Ensure sure you are all on the same page, assign responsibility and ask yourself this:
- Do they see your vision
- Are they committed to helping you carry out YOUR vision to fruition
- Do you have similar taste in decor and design
- Do you work well together under pressure
- Do they have your back…ALWAYS
- Have they assisted with wedding planning before
- Can they handle it if you tell them NO to one of their ideas
- Do they respect YOUR opinion
- Do you respect their opinion in everyday occurrences
If you cannot answer YES to EVERY question, run…don’t walk, RUN. Spare yourself the time it would take to decipher the opinions now, so you don’t have to deal with it later.
And remember…too many cooks spoil the soup.