Category Archives: Wedding Planner

Planning: Thursday is the New Saturday

Just a little note from the planner.

Brides/Grooms and wedding’s on a whole have taken on an entirely new life. They have evolved since the days our grandparents exchanged vows and will continue to do so. With this in mind, I want you savvy couples just beginning to get your planning underway to remember one thing ” if you book it…they will come”.

What this means is, YOU are planning your wedding based on your needs, your desires, your likes, your BUDGET. And with those factors in mind do not be suckered into feeling that you HAVE to get married on a Saturday evening at The Plaza because that is what you “think” your guests will expect. Your guests ( if they truly love, care and wish to celebrate you) will go to a wedding on a Sunday evening, or a Saturday morning, or a Thursday. Wherever your purse strings carry you. Lead with what you want most in your wedding day. Choose your venue based on what matters to you both the most. And if you feel that your desires are waaaaaay out of your budget at the venue of your dreams, don’t forget to ask the Sales manager if you can have the wedding there on a Tuesday or a Sunday or a Thursday. You will be amazed at what suddenly becomes affordable when you become a bit more flexible.

PS: If anyone complains about your “flexible” date, I would seriously consider re-evaluating your relationship with that guest. #JustSayin

Planning: WTF you mean you don’t need a Wedding Planner?

LEAN IN…

 

A Venue Coordinator is NOT THE SAME as a Wedding Planner. Let me say this again… A VENUE COORDINATOR IS NOT THE SAME AS A WEDDING PLANNER.

 

Whether you hire a Planner for full planning, partial planning, day of, month of, week of, 4 days out the week, every other Sunday, however you want to spin it, get you someone that is interested in YOUR wedding, YOUR needs YOUR design and not just the needs of the venue.

Listen, some venue coordinators are great they really are but they do not offer the same services that a dedicated Wedding Planner does. The venue only wants to make sure it flows how they want it to flow…their way. You want square tables, that venue is going to make those oblong tables sound like it’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than the square tables but guess what….IT’S not. But to the venue that already has countless oblong tables in stock why would they want to put in the extra work with switching that out. You will see how quickly the happy Venue Coordinator tells you “YOU will have to manage that“. The Venue Coordinator, is not going to ensure your ENTIRE day runs smoothly. I mean from make-up to the when the last vendor rolls out. The Venue Coordinator will not even blink until you reach the venue.  I don’t want to rain on your parade (too much) because when done right the partnership between a Venue Coordinator and a Wedding Planner can make a wedding day flow very nicely. Key phrase “On The Same Page“. But do not think the Venue Coordinator will fix all your problems from start to finish? No, that’s what the Wedding Planner is for.

 

So when you find that fabulous venue and they to tell you “you don’t need a planner, we can take care of all your needs ” find out what “all those needs” are exactly.  Because, If you need:

  • someone to ensure your family knows when to show up for hair make up and pre-ceremony photos
  • confirm load in and load out with all of your vendors
  • review music list with your DJ with reminders
  • to ensure the cinematographer knows when and where to go
  • to secure a room block
  • to ensure your dress is out the bag and ready for it’s close up
  • to make sure you don’t freak out when you can’t find your ruby woo lipstick for re-application
  • to make sure mom gets a hold of your money box for safe keeping
  • someone to answer all the annoying little questions like what time do you want dinner served, which table first, we are running late do you still want to do the money dance, what is a money dance…etc
  • the venue does NOT pre-plate the salad before your guests enter the room and are seated

…then you need a Wedding PLanner NOT a Venue Coordinator

Parties: The Bride Said ‘NO’

How hilarious (okay well maybe not so hilarious) is it that a nervous groom worked up the nerves to propose to his girlfriend that he wants to spend the REST of his life with and she, in all her excitement says:

NO!

No, i’m not kidding. My bride said NO. hahahahahaha. I can laugh now because I know they exchanged vows but when I heard the story I clutched my pearls. It seems she was so excited and nervous and excited… and did I say EXCITED she barely heard a word he said and instead of shouting YES ( which I assumed she meant) she said NO. Luckily the groom finally got his yes (I think) and they were married on May 4, 2017 in a Harlem Renaissance themed affair. I will share lots more on this story later but for now I leave you with one of my favorite pictures from this beautiful wedding:

And please, allow me to thank the wonderful partners that made it possible to pull of this amazing wedding:

Teamwork makes the Dream Work

Planning: When Wedding Themes Fight Back

So you have a theme. Butterflies, Tiffany & Co, Plains, Trains & Automobiles, Carnival… etc that’s fine. I love a good theme. HOWEVER, for the love of décor and the pupils in everyone’s eyes you DO NOT have to have the theme in EVERYTHING:
  • Invitations
  • Linens
  • Centerpieces
  • Favors
  • Clothes
  • Hair accessories
  • Food
  • Napkins,
  • Specialty drink
  • Chair
  • Chair Accessories
  • Lighting
…catch my drift? No? Well look at it this way, let’s say you are having a Tiffany & Co. themed wedding. WELL. don’t get:
  • Tiffany Blue table linen
  • Tiffany Blue napkins
  • Tiffany Blue chargers
  • Tiffany Blue ( dyed) flowers – they don’t grow this color
  • Tiffany Blue menu
  • Tiffany Blue diamond ribbon for décor EVERYWHERE ( because it’s classy)
  • Tiffany Blue chair cushion
  • Tiffany Blue chair sash
  • Tiffany Blue table number
  • Tiffany Blue votives
  • Tiffany Blue uplighting
Can you picture that? No really, close your eyes and try, i’ll wait……………………..……………………… hurts doesn’t it! NOW if you do something like:
  • Tiffany Blue linen
  • White napkins
  • Clear/Mirrored chargers
  • White flowers
  • White Menu with the typeface or details in Tiffany Blue
  • Black chiavari chair with white chair cushion ( why black you ask? Well.. why not. mix it up a little)
  • Tiffany Blue color table number with white details
  • Silver mercury or plain sheer votives
  • Hurricane Candles
  • Burn the Tiffany Blue diamond wrap
  • Tiffany Blue Gift box Favor
  • Amber up lighting and switch to Tiffany Blue for the tun up time.
Go ahead picture it. I’ll wait……………………..…………………………………………………………….. you see the difference. Hurts less doesn’t it.
You can get your point across without the overkill. A little bit here and a little bit there goes a long long loooooooooong way. So take it easy on the theme and the theme will be very good to you. Trust me on this:)
Happy Planning:)
Imagine By: AMG Fotography

Planning: You Are Getting Married…Now What?

Congratulations! You are engaged now what?

 

Happy New Year. I am still feeling all mushy and gushy inside from all the proposal stories and videos I’ve seen and heard over the Christmas/New Year holiday. One newly engaged bride I had the pleasure of speaking with was in full on panic mode. OMG I’m engaged where do I start, what do I do, where do I look, who  do I call, I need a photographer, HELP ( no seriously that was the convo) . My response…okay breeeeeeeeathe. Let’s slow down a bit, it’s only the December 29th, you got engaged December 25th and you are not getting married tomorrow so let’s take a step back for a hot second and talk some things through:

 

  • Do you want to get married in 2017 or 2018?
  • Do you want a catering hall wedding or raw space wedding?
  • Are you getting married locally or destination?
  • Who is paying for the wedding?
  • What is your wedding budget?
  • How many guests are you inviting?
  • Traditional Wedding or a doing it your own way?
 
HER:INSERT panic mode AGAIN….
ME:Here have some wine

  
It’s clear that this particular bride, as are many others right now, had to sort through some things. And that is totally okay. At this point she doesn’t have to have all the answers yesterday. Just take a step back and allow yourself the opportunity to:
  1. Enjoying being a fiancée (floss that ring honey)
  2. Answer some key questions so when you get off your mark you have a clear direction of what you want to see at your finish line.
Thankfully my bride was able to relax a bit (4 days lol) and now she has a better hold on the direction of her raw space 2018 wedding and I’m ecstatic to help her.
 
How are YOU handling the stress


Planning: 6 Reasons You May Not Be A DIY Bride

I envy those people that get excited at the thought of picking up a tool or thingy or thingamajig or whodat or whatdowehavehere in the attempt to recreate an item that they have seen on Pinterest but refuse to buy because they can do it better. KU-DOS!!! I am NOT-THE-ONE. THERE…I said it…whew, what a load off ! There is a time and place for everything and while I commend those that have the patience and energy for it…JunePlumm Events does not for a number of reasons:

1) I just don’t want to

2) DIY isn’t always the easiest route. If you are like me, no patience for the perfectionism that it takes to create or recreate that totally awesome Pinterest thingy that you MUST have. Then it will drive you insane if it doesn’t come out EXACTLY as you have seen online. CAUTION…BEWARE…DO NOT PASS GO!

3) DIY isn’t always the cheapest option. Items purchased in bulk are typically more affordable than those purchased one here and one there. So unless this is something the is being created or recreated on a consistent basis the cost per product will be more. Not to mention if you do not have a wholesale ID affording you the option to get these items at a cost savings then…$$$$$$$

4) DIY takes patience and time. Nobody move..no one talk to me… no one even think about breathing as I attempt to stripe this vase. Yeah… doesn’t sound fun to me either. I just grew another grey hair remembering that time that I tried to… you know what, I wont go there. Let’s move on

5) I just don’t want to

6) See #’s 1 and 5

AGAIN: Let me be clear, I APPLAUD those that are DIY’ers but it is completely okay if you are not the one. So brides, understand that while planners may have a love for most things wedding, it does not mean that everyone of us want to recreate it ourselves. There are vendors out there that have built up the skill (and patience) to handle these items in bulk and for a fraction of the cost that it would cost your planner to do it themselves. So yeah… it’s not a fun project for everyone.
DISCLAIMER: While I am not into DIY I will spray paint the heck out of anything. Oh yeah, and I’m mean with it too.
Photo: Courtesy of Pinterest

Planning: You are bound to piss off someone

Twice this weekend I found myself telling two seperate brides the exact same thing, “You are bound to piss off someone while planning your wedding”. It isn’t becuase you are a mean (insert word the rhymes with itch HERE). It’s becuase friends, family and people have a set of expections from your wedding that is most likely different from yours.

  • You can’t invite EVERYONE
  • You can’t buy EVERYTHING
  • You probably won’t buy the dress someone wanted you to wear
  • You are not going to serve the food that everybody wanted to eat that day
  • Someone will want you to play hip hop when all you want to hear is RnB during the last half hour of the wedding

…and guess what, it’s okay. Whose wedding is this anyway? Im sorry I thought it was yours. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to completely ignore your guests and don’t consider them at all. Afterall, you are creating an experience for them as well. What I AM saying is, utimately you have to make the best decision that you know how to make and please don’t loose sleep over the fact that 1 guest/person will be pissed off becuase you did something that they may not approve of. *oops my bad*…and now we continue.

So while you are there on a tight budget mulling over if you should invite kids, friends of friends, colleagues that you don’t speak to but they are in the same office even though you can’t stand them… just say to yourself ” what would Jesus do”. WAIT, no don’t say that to yourself… look in your purse and say hmmmmmmmm now how far am I willing to make this dollar stretch?

Happy Planning

Planning: The Hard Part

So you think you have it figured out.

You hired…

  • The DJ
  • The Florist
  • The Photographer
  • The Cinematographer
  • The Stationer
  • The Make up Artist
  • The Pastor
  • The Hairstylist
  • The Venue
  • The Limo company
  • Etc.
And so the hard part is over right? Well:

What is your DJ going to play, when will they start, do they have insurance, do they MC, how many bars of your first dance song will they play, which song is a do not play, when should they play slow jams, when should they drop it like it’s hot, where do they set up, what equipment do and don’t they need, etc.
What kind of flowers do you want, do you want high & lows or all highs and or all lows, do you want peonies, roses and lilies or all of them or some of them, what color white, off white or cream, do you want flowers for the ceremony, do you want flowers by the head table, do you want a hanging bouquet or a round bouquet or a bouquet purse, will you need a bouquet to toss, what kind of vases do you want lacquer or round or reflective or hurricane or square or rectangle or oblong, or etc…
When does your photographer arrive, how many shooters will you want or need or have, who will go where and when, what photography style do you want, to reveal or not to reveal, when do you take your portraits, where do you take your portraits, what are the must have family pics, what are the must have detail pics, etc.
What typography do you want, how many invites do you need, what color envelop, what type of paper, what weight in paper do you prefer, what kind of design, calligraphy or not, table numbers or table names, with return or E-RSVP, save the date or not, etc…
I think you see where I am going with this. 
In the past 6 days I have had 3 inquiries into JunePlumm Events Partial Planning Service in which the bride said “We have the hard part done since we have all of our vendors”. I quickly ran down the list, similar to what I have stated above and it was a light bulb moment or an OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea moment. I had to remind them that compared to everything that needs to be done, finding the vendors was the easy part. The hard stuff is all the itty bitty gritty details that have to be asked and answered for each “Hard Part Vendor” that was booked.  That’s where the real hair pulling comes in. It’s like this, you move out of your parents house for the first time. You know you need a bed, a sofa and a dining room table. BUT did you remember that you need, sheets, pillows, pillow cases, pots, pans, spoons, forks, knives, dish rags, toaster, broom, garbage bags, garbage pans, sanitizer, 409, Lysol, Fabreeze, grater, lotion, strainer, spoon rest, dish washing liquid, sponge, potato peeler, bathroom mats, glass cleaner, band aids, gas, cable, wifi, light, and the list goes on and on and on. Those are the little things that you forget you need until the moment you need them and then OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea again…I don’t have it. Off to the corner store you go. 
This is why you need a planner. We put it together, we pull it together and we keep it together.    
The REAL hard part!