Category Archives: Wedding Planner

Planning: You Are Getting Married…Now What?

Congratulations! You are engaged now what?

 

Happy New Year. I am still feeling all mushy and gushy inside from all the proposal stories and videos I’ve seen and heard over the Christmas/New Year holiday. One newly engaged bride I had the pleasure of speaking with was in full on panic mode. OMG I’m engaged where do I start, what do I do, where do I look, who  do I call, I need a photographer, HELP ( no seriously that was the convo) . My response…okay breeeeeeeeathe. Let’s slow down a bit, it’s only the December 29th, you got engaged December 25th and you are not getting married tomorrow so let’s take a step back for a hot second and talk some things through:

 

  • Do you want to get married in 2017 or 2018?
  • Do you want a catering hall wedding or raw space wedding?
  • Are you getting married locally or destination?
  • Who is paying for the wedding?
  • What is your wedding budget?
  • How many guests are you inviting?
  • Traditional Wedding or a doing it your own way?
 
HER:INSERT panic mode AGAIN….
ME:Here have some wine

  
It’s clear that this particular bride, as are many others right now, had to sort through some things. And that is totally okay. At this point she doesn’t have to have all the answers yesterday. Just take a step back and allow yourself the opportunity to:
  1. Enjoying being a fiancée (floss that ring honey)
  2. Answer some key questions so when you get off your mark you have a clear direction of what you want to see at your finish line.
Thankfully my bride was able to relax a bit (4 days lol) and now she has a better hold on the direction of her raw space 2018 wedding and I’m ecstatic to help her.
 
How are YOU handling the stress


Planning: 6 Reasons You May Not Be A DIY Bride

I envy those people that get excited at the thought of picking up a tool or thingy or thingamajig or whodat or whatdowehavehere in the attempt to recreate an item that they have seen on Pinterest but refuse to buy because they can do it better. KU-DOS!!! I am NOT-THE-ONE. THERE…I said it…whew, what a load off ! There is a time and place for everything and while I commend those that have the patience and energy for it…JunePlumm Events does not for a number of reasons:

1) I just don’t want to

2) DIY isn’t always the easiest route. If you are like me, no patience for the perfectionism that it takes to create or recreate that totally awesome Pinterest thingy that you MUST have. Then it will drive you insane if it doesn’t come out EXACTLY as you have seen online. CAUTION…BEWARE…DO NOT PASS GO!

3) DIY isn’t always the cheapest option. Items purchased in bulk are typically more affordable than those purchased one here and one there. So unless this is something the is being created or recreated on a consistent basis the cost per product will be more. Not to mention if you do not have a wholesale ID affording you the option to get these items at a cost savings then…$$$$$$$

4) DIY takes patience and time. Nobody move..no one talk to me… no one even think about breathing as I attempt to stripe this vase. Yeah… doesn’t sound fun to me either. I just grew another grey hair remembering that time that I tried to… you know what, I wont go there. Let’s move on

5) I just don’t want to

6) See #’s 1 and 5

AGAIN: Let me be clear, I APPLAUD those that are DIY’ers but it is completely okay if you are not the one. So brides, understand that while planners may have a love for most things wedding, it does not mean that everyone of us want to recreate it ourselves. There are vendors out there that have built up the skill (and patience) to handle these items in bulk and for a fraction of the cost that it would cost your planner to do it themselves. So yeah… it’s not a fun project for everyone.
DISCLAIMER: While I am not into DIY I will spray paint the heck out of anything. Oh yeah, and I’m mean with it too.
Photo: Courtesy of Pinterest

Planning: You are bound to piss off someone

Twice this weekend I found myself telling two seperate brides the exact same thing, “You are bound to piss off someone while planning your wedding”. It isn’t becuase you are a mean (insert word the rhymes with itch HERE). It’s becuase friends, family and people have a set of expections from your wedding that is most likely different from yours.

  • You can’t invite EVERYONE
  • You can’t buy EVERYTHING
  • You probably won’t buy the dress someone wanted you to wear
  • You are not going to serve the food that everybody wanted to eat that day
  • Someone will want you to play hip hop when all you want to hear is RnB during the last half hour of the wedding

…and guess what, it’s okay. Whose wedding is this anyway? Im sorry I thought it was yours. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to completely ignore your guests and don’t consider them at all. Afterall, you are creating an experience for them as well. What I AM saying is, utimately you have to make the best decision that you know how to make and please don’t loose sleep over the fact that 1 guest/person will be pissed off becuase you did something that they may not approve of. *oops my bad*…and now we continue.

So while you are there on a tight budget mulling over if you should invite kids, friends of friends, colleagues that you don’t speak to but they are in the same office even though you can’t stand them… just say to yourself ” what would Jesus do”. WAIT, no don’t say that to yourself… look in your purse and say hmmmmmmmm now how far am I willing to make this dollar stretch?

Happy Planning

Planning: The Hard Part

So you think you have it figured out.

You hired…

  • The DJ
  • The Florist
  • The Photographer
  • The Cinematographer
  • The Stationer
  • The Make up Artist
  • The Pastor
  • The Hairstylist
  • The Venue
  • The Limo company
  • Etc.
And so the hard part is over right? Well:

What is your DJ going to play, when will they start, do they have insurance, do they MC, how many bars of your first dance song will they play, which song is a do not play, when should they play slow jams, when should they drop it like it’s hot, where do they set up, what equipment do and don’t they need, etc.
What kind of flowers do you want, do you want high & lows or all highs and or all lows, do you want peonies, roses and lilies or all of them or some of them, what color white, off white or cream, do you want flowers for the ceremony, do you want flowers by the head table, do you want a hanging bouquet or a round bouquet or a bouquet purse, will you need a bouquet to toss, what kind of vases do you want lacquer or round or reflective or hurricane or square or rectangle or oblong, or etc…
When does your photographer arrive, how many shooters will you want or need or have, who will go where and when, what photography style do you want, to reveal or not to reveal, when do you take your portraits, where do you take your portraits, what are the must have family pics, what are the must have detail pics, etc.
What typography do you want, how many invites do you need, what color envelop, what type of paper, what weight in paper do you prefer, what kind of design, calligraphy or not, table numbers or table names, with return or E-RSVP, save the date or not, etc…
I think you see where I am going with this. 
In the past 6 days I have had 3 inquiries into JunePlumm Events Partial Planning Service in which the bride said “We have the hard part done since we have all of our vendors”. I quickly ran down the list, similar to what I have stated above and it was a light bulb moment or an OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea moment. I had to remind them that compared to everything that needs to be done, finding the vendors was the easy part. The hard stuff is all the itty bitty gritty details that have to be asked and answered for each “Hard Part Vendor” that was booked.  That’s where the real hair pulling comes in. It’s like this, you move out of your parents house for the first time. You know you need a bed, a sofa and a dining room table. BUT did you remember that you need, sheets, pillows, pillow cases, pots, pans, spoons, forks, knives, dish rags, toaster, broom, garbage bags, garbage pans, sanitizer, 409, Lysol, Fabreeze, grater, lotion, strainer, spoon rest, dish washing liquid, sponge, potato peeler, bathroom mats, glass cleaner, band aids, gas, cable, wifi, light, and the list goes on and on and on. Those are the little things that you forget you need until the moment you need them and then OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea again…I don’t have it. Off to the corner store you go. 
This is why you need a planner. We put it together, we pull it together and we keep it together.    
The REAL hard part!