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Planning: WTF you mean you don’t need a Wedding Planner?

LEAN IN…

 

A Venue Coordinator is NOT THE SAME as a Wedding Planner. Let me say this again… A VENUE COORDINATOR IS NOT THE SAME AS A WEDDING PLANNER.

 

Whether you hire a Planner for full planning, partial planning, day of, month of, week of, 4 days out the week, every other Sunday, however you want to spin it, get you someone that is interested in YOUR wedding, YOUR needs YOUR design and not just the needs of the venue.

Listen, some venue coordinators are great they really are but they do not offer the same services that a dedicated Wedding Planner does. The venue only wants to make sure it flows how they want it to flow…their way. You want square tables, that venue is going to make those oblong tables sound like it’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than the square tables but guess what….IT’S not. But to the venue that already has countless oblong tables in stock why would they want to put in the extra work with switching that out. You will see how quickly the happy Venue Coordinator tells you “YOU will have to manage that“. The Venue Coordinator, is not going to ensure your ENTIRE day runs smoothly. I mean from make-up to the when the last vendor rolls out. The Venue Coordinator will not even blink until you reach the venue.  I don’t want to rain on your parade (too much) because when done right the partnership between a Venue Coordinator and a Wedding Planner can make a wedding day flow very nicely. Key phrase “On The Same Page“. But do not think the Venue Coordinator will fix all your problems from start to finish? No, that’s what the Wedding Planner is for.

 

So when you find that fabulous venue and they to tell you “you don’t need a planner, we can take care of all your needs ” find out what “all those needs” are exactly.  Because, If you need:

  • someone to ensure your family knows when to show up for hair make up and pre-ceremony photos
  • confirm load in and load out with all of your vendors
  • review music list with your DJ with reminders
  • to ensure the cinematographer knows when and where to go
  • to secure a room block
  • to ensure your dress is out the bag and ready for it’s close up
  • to make sure you don’t freak out when you can’t find your ruby woo lipstick for re-application
  • to make sure mom gets a hold of your money box for safe keeping
  • someone to answer all the annoying little questions like what time do you want dinner served, which table first, we are running late do you still want to do the money dance, what is a money dance…etc
  • the venue does NOT pre-plate the salad before your guests enter the room and are seated

…then you need a Wedding PLanner NOT a Venue Coordinator

Planning: 6 Reasons You May Not Be A DIY Bride

I envy those people that get excited at the thought of picking up a tool or thingy or thingamajig or whodat or whatdowehavehere in the attempt to recreate an item that they have seen on Pinterest but refuse to buy because they can do it better. KU-DOS!!! I am NOT-THE-ONE. THERE…I said it…whew, what a load off ! There is a time and place for everything and while I commend those that have the patience and energy for it…JunePlumm Events does not for a number of reasons:

1) I just don’t want to

2) DIY isn’t always the easiest route. If you are like me, no patience for the perfectionism that it takes to create or recreate that totally awesome Pinterest thingy that you MUST have. Then it will drive you insane if it doesn’t come out EXACTLY as you have seen online. CAUTION…BEWARE…DO NOT PASS GO!

3) DIY isn’t always the cheapest option. Items purchased in bulk are typically more affordable than those purchased one here and one there. So unless this is something the is being created or recreated on a consistent basis the cost per product will be more. Not to mention if you do not have a wholesale ID affording you the option to get these items at a cost savings then…$$$$$$$

4) DIY takes patience and time. Nobody move..no one talk to me… no one even think about breathing as I attempt to stripe this vase. Yeah… doesn’t sound fun to me either. I just grew another grey hair remembering that time that I tried to… you know what, I wont go there. Let’s move on

5) I just don’t want to

6) See #’s 1 and 5

AGAIN: Let me be clear, I APPLAUD those that are DIY’ers but it is completely okay if you are not the one. So brides, understand that while planners may have a love for most things wedding, it does not mean that everyone of us want to recreate it ourselves. There are vendors out there that have built up the skill (and patience) to handle these items in bulk and for a fraction of the cost that it would cost your planner to do it themselves. So yeah… it’s not a fun project for everyone.
DISCLAIMER: While I am not into DIY I will spray paint the heck out of anything. Oh yeah, and I’m mean with it too.
Photo: Courtesy of Pinterest

Planning: You are bound to piss off someone

Twice this weekend I found myself telling two seperate brides the exact same thing, “You are bound to piss off someone while planning your wedding”. It isn’t becuase you are a mean (insert word the rhymes with itch HERE). It’s becuase friends, family and people have a set of expections from your wedding that is most likely different from yours.

  • You can’t invite EVERYONE
  • You can’t buy EVERYTHING
  • You probably won’t buy the dress someone wanted you to wear
  • You are not going to serve the food that everybody wanted to eat that day
  • Someone will want you to play hip hop when all you want to hear is RnB during the last half hour of the wedding

…and guess what, it’s okay. Whose wedding is this anyway? Im sorry I thought it was yours. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to completely ignore your guests and don’t consider them at all. Afterall, you are creating an experience for them as well. What I AM saying is, utimately you have to make the best decision that you know how to make and please don’t loose sleep over the fact that 1 guest/person will be pissed off becuase you did something that they may not approve of. *oops my bad*…and now we continue.

So while you are there on a tight budget mulling over if you should invite kids, friends of friends, colleagues that you don’t speak to but they are in the same office even though you can’t stand them… just say to yourself ” what would Jesus do”. WAIT, no don’t say that to yourself… look in your purse and say hmmmmmmmm now how far am I willing to make this dollar stretch?

Happy Planning

Planning: The Hard Part

So you think you have it figured out.

You hired…

  • The DJ
  • The Florist
  • The Photographer
  • The Cinematographer
  • The Stationer
  • The Make up Artist
  • The Pastor
  • The Hairstylist
  • The Venue
  • The Limo company
  • Etc.
And so the hard part is over right? Well:

What is your DJ going to play, when will they start, do they have insurance, do they MC, how many bars of your first dance song will they play, which song is a do not play, when should they play slow jams, when should they drop it like it’s hot, where do they set up, what equipment do and don’t they need, etc.
What kind of flowers do you want, do you want high & lows or all highs and or all lows, do you want peonies, roses and lilies or all of them or some of them, what color white, off white or cream, do you want flowers for the ceremony, do you want flowers by the head table, do you want a hanging bouquet or a round bouquet or a bouquet purse, will you need a bouquet to toss, what kind of vases do you want lacquer or round or reflective or hurricane or square or rectangle or oblong, or etc…
When does your photographer arrive, how many shooters will you want or need or have, who will go where and when, what photography style do you want, to reveal or not to reveal, when do you take your portraits, where do you take your portraits, what are the must have family pics, what are the must have detail pics, etc.
What typography do you want, how many invites do you need, what color envelop, what type of paper, what weight in paper do you prefer, what kind of design, calligraphy or not, table numbers or table names, with return or E-RSVP, save the date or not, etc…
I think you see where I am going with this. 
In the past 6 days I have had 3 inquiries into JunePlumm Events Partial Planning Service in which the bride said “We have the hard part done since we have all of our vendors”. I quickly ran down the list, similar to what I have stated above and it was a light bulb moment or an OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea moment. I had to remind them that compared to everything that needs to be done, finding the vendors was the easy part. The hard stuff is all the itty bitty gritty details that have to be asked and answered for each “Hard Part Vendor” that was booked.  That’s where the real hair pulling comes in. It’s like this, you move out of your parents house for the first time. You know you need a bed, a sofa and a dining room table. BUT did you remember that you need, sheets, pillows, pillow cases, pots, pans, spoons, forks, knives, dish rags, toaster, broom, garbage bags, garbage pans, sanitizer, 409, Lysol, Fabreeze, grater, lotion, strainer, spoon rest, dish washing liquid, sponge, potato peeler, bathroom mats, glass cleaner, band aids, gas, cable, wifi, light, and the list goes on and on and on. Those are the little things that you forget you need until the moment you need them and then OH Sugar-Honey-Ice-Tea again…I don’t have it. Off to the corner store you go. 
This is why you need a planner. We put it together, we pull it together and we keep it together.    
The REAL hard part!

Planning: Marriage in New York Minute

What’s a wedding without a marriage license…INVALID. So for all you newly engaged and almost married boys and girls ( in NYC), here are a few items you should consider when going for your marriage license:

  • Other than military personnel, your marriage license is ONLY valid for 60 days. So plan ahead, just not too far ahead
  • It’ll cost you $35 (credit card or money order) to obtain a marriage license. Affordable right
  • Your license is ONLY valid in NY State.
  • You MUST complete an application (available online)
  • You MUST appear in person together to obtain your marriage license (no stand ins)
  • You and your spouse must provide the city clerk’s office with sufficient identification in order to obtain a marriage license. Some of which include: a valid US Driver’s License, Passport, Alien Registration Card, Military ID…to name a few
  • Upon receipt of your marriage license, it becomes valid after a FULL 24 hours (unless you receive a judicial waiver)
  • If you have were previously married, bring proof of your divorce or be ready to provide the full name and date of death of your deceased spouse
Hopefully you will find this is a helpful quick tips in getting you started on getting your marriage license. For additional details please check the Office of The City Clerk Online HERE or in person at the following locations:
Brooklyn
Brooklyn Municipal Building
210 Joralemon Street, Room 205
Brooklyn, NY 11201
Hours: 8:30 am to 4:00 pm, Monday through Friday
Manhattan
141 Worth Street
New York, NY 10013
Hours: 8:30 am to 3:45 pm, Monday through Friday

Queens
Borough Hall Building
120-55 Queens Boulevard, Ground Floor, Room X001
Kew Gardens, NY 11424
Hours: 8:30 am to 4:00 pm, Monday through Friday
Bronx
Supreme Court Building
851 Grand Concourse, Room B131
Bronx, NY 10451
Hours: 8:30 am to 4:00 pm, Monday through Friday
Staten Island
Borough Hall Building
10 Richmond Terrace, Room 311
Staten Island, NY 10301
Hours: 8:30 am to 4:00 pm, Monday through Friday

HAPPY MARRYING

Planning: It’s been a long time…

I know…I know. It has been a very slow summer for the A Little Bit A’ This Blog, my apologies but I have had a lot on my plate this summer (and that’s a good thing), and needed to scale back a bit. But I have promised even though I have been a bit M.I.A have not forgotten you all. And to make sure you haven’t forgotten me, let’s get reacquainted with some new and old “me” facts:

  • My name is Camille A. Plummer
  • I’ve been planning events for 5+ years now
  • I was born in Jamaica WI ( and go back every year)
  • I have developed an insane obsession with feathers
  • I love the color Chartreuse
  • I love cymbidium and phalaenopsis orchids
  • Half open doors and drawers irk me
  • I hate the sound of biting into apples or pencils (cringe)
  • I obsess over the details
  • I am an eager Godmother in waiting (God-daughter Brookie will be here any day now)
  • I love to dance…and is darn good at it
  • I have been playing mass (think Brazil carnival) in Trinidad for 4 years in a row now and I’m hooked
  • Once upon a time I wanted to become a Family and Relationship therapist (I often play one in my everyday life)
  • I am a big sap
  • I am a Taurus…and YES I can be stubborn
  • My ideal client is one that likes to revel in the moment and not in the details
  • Next to weddings, baby showers are my favorite event
  • I’m an only child (kinda)
  • I do not wear watches to tell time…but I will for style
  • I love marshmallows
  • I truly believe everyone deserves a little bling in life
  • I am 5 feet 2 inches tall… (that’s my story and I’m sticking to it)
  • I hate cab driver seat belts touching my face
  • I’m not a yes ma’am. If I’m planning your event, and I think something is tacky…I’m telling you it’s tacky.
  • I thank GOD every chance I get for all of my successes and not-so-successes. without him I wouldn’t be where I am today!
THERE!…now that we have become reacquainted, what have you been up to?

Planning: What To Expect When you are Expecting

Your best friend is engaged and expect you to play an integral part in your wedding…BUT, you just found out you are expecting… NOW WHAT! Well lucky for you, the old wives tail that expectant mothers should not take part in weddings is phooey. But before you say yes to the dress, consider the following:

  • Be honest, ensure the bride is fully aware that you are expecting. And if you are NOT comfortable with taking part in the wedding as a pregnant bridesmaid, then say so. There are plenty of ways for you to be a part of the event and show your love without walking down the aisle.
  • Be comfortable, do not constrain yourself in a garment that is restricted and does not breathe well. Consider the fabric of the dress and the time of year of the wedding.
  • Consider how far along you will be at the time of the wedding. The size you are now, is probably not the size you will be when you walk down the aisle as a bridesmaid. So inform the staff at the bridal salon that you are expecting. They will be knowledgeable enough to guide you in ordering the correct dress in the proper size. They may even suggest waiting until you are in a specific part of your pregnancy before ordering the bridesmaid dress
  • Wear comfy shoes. Let’s face it, your feet may swell up to the size of a balloon. So comfort is a necessity. NO EXCEPTIONS!
  • Consider the your due date and the date of the wedding. The wedding day is probably not the time for your to welcome your plus 1

All things considered, if you do decide to take part in the wedding, don’t stress over your size or weight or position (easier said than done I know). Just remember you are there for your friend, and it’s her moment. She will be sure to return the favor, love and attention when it is your moment…to welcome your beautiful baby boy or girl.

Planning: Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen!

You have a huge support group behind you, in front of you and beside you. Mom is an expert. BFF is an expert. Sister is an expert. EVERYONE is an expert. BUT, are they really all experts? Brides planning weddings on your own (and even non-brides planning other events), I am happy that all your “peeps” are available to lend helping hands, expertise and suggestions. They all mean well, but is EVERYONE on the same page. You have Mom telling you to go left, BFF telling you to go right, and Sister telling you don’t go at all. Which way do you go? See how confusing this can be?

If you select to plan your wedding without the assistance of a hired professional, narrow down your pool of “experts”. It’s confusing enough to have to manage it on your own. That last thing you need, is to have to stop and process everyone else’s opinion PLUS your own. After about 2.2 seconds, it become frustrating.

And if you still feel it is necessary to have all these “expert” opinions, bring everyone to the table. Ensure sure you are all on the same page, assign responsibility and ask yourself this:

  • Do they see your vision
  • Are they committed to helping you carry out YOUR vision to fruition
  • Do you have similar taste in decor and design
  • Do you work well together under pressure
  • Do they have your back…ALWAYS
  • Have they assisted with wedding planning before
  • Can they handle it if you tell them NO to one of their ideas
  • Do they respect YOUR opinion
  • Do you respect their opinion in everyday occurrences

If you cannot answer YES to EVERY question, run…don’t walk, RUN. Spare yourself the time it would take to decipher the opinions now, so you don’t have to deal with it later.

And remember…too many cooks spoil the soup.

Planning: How Much Is Too Much?

How much is too much to drink at your wedding…

If your officiant is thanking you for inviting him to the cocktail hour, reception and wishing you love and happiness throughout your wedding, THEN you stick your tongue in your spouses ear and say “later baby”…
-you have had too much to drink

If you are giving your thank you speech and no one can hear you because you are holding the microphone upside down…
-you have had too much to drink

If you introduce your wife to your cousin she as never met as “what’s your name again…I ah ah ah can’t ahh do we know each other”…
-you have had too much to drink

If you are about to do the ceremonious cutting of the cake and you start doing the “Do you smell what the Rock is cooking” display…
-you have had too much to drink

If you know you are not receiving the best dancer of the year award and you proceed to entertain your guest with your own rendition of flashdance…complete with chair…
-you have had too much to drink

If you approach your wedding planner to thank her for a job well done by trying to kiss her ON THE MOUTH in front of your wife…
-you have had too much to drink

A wedding is supposed to be an enjoyable special occasion. Don’t compromise it by over indulging in drink offers by your friends and guests. I know you don’t want to offend anyone by turning down the offer to toss one back for ole’ times sake, but you also want to remember your wedding tomorrow. Learn to say thanks for the offer but I have had enough.

You will be glad you did.

Planning: Too Cool for Skool…Part 3

We covered Old Skool and New Skool, now for the final part to this trilogy is Too Cool for Skool.
Here is Brides New York’s lists as the Next Big Thing to hit the mainstream:

All White Bridal Party: Agreed This bridal party will look very clean, neat and crisp.

Tangerine/Cobalt Color Scheme: Agreed, This is a powerhouse combo. Great for someone that loves a combustion of color.

Birdcage Veils: Should have been New Skool. These fabulous accessories are making a huge splash in weddings, and every day events. Are you game to wear the heck out of one?

Veggie Centerpieces: Agreed. Now we are not talking about taking the whole farmers market and sticking it in the middle of your centerpiece. What is being referenced is including veggies in the midst of your floral centerpiece to not only give it a splash of color but also texture.

Multiple Wedding Cakes: Agreed, but this too is a bit New Skool. Multiple wedding cakes have been gracing weddings for a bit now. But it hasn’t had that big boom as yet that we are seeing in the Candy Stations. But hang tight, it is about to explode

Courtesy of PinkCake Box

Rented Jukebox At the Reception: Agreed

Gruner Veltliner: Agreed. If you are a wine drinker this Austrian white grape wine is one to check out.

Create Your Own Mojito Bar: Agreed, This will pick up where the signature drinks is leaving off.

Gospel Choir At The Ceremony: Agreed, now some of you might be saying that your family has been doing this for years. Well yours might, but not hers. I hope this does catch on. There is a magical feeling when you are serenaded by the lively sounds of a gospel choir. No snoozing at this ceremony.

Bright Colorful Heels Under The Wedding Gown: This too should have been New Skool. Ladies have been stepping outside the white shoe box for a minute now. But I have a feeling this too has some more catching on to do.

PaperCuts: Agreed, this are images cut out of paper by hand or knife. LOVE IT!!! How awesome would it be to have papercut monograms or table numbers.

So what did you think? Do you agree or disagree with this list. Do you have any trends that you would add to the Old Skool, Now Skool or Too Cool for Skool list?