Category Archives: Etiquette

Planning: 6 Reasons You May Not Be A DIY Bride

I envy those people that get excited at the thought of picking up a tool or thingy or thingamajig or whodat or whatdowehavehere in the attempt to recreate an item that they have seen on Pinterest but refuse to buy because they can do it better. KU-DOS!!! I am NOT-THE-ONE. THERE…I said it…whew, what a load off ! There is a time and place for everything and while I commend those that have the patience and energy for it…JunePlumm Events does not for a number of reasons:

1) I just don’t want to

2) DIY isn’t always the easiest route. If you are like me, no patience for the perfectionism that it takes to create or recreate that totally awesome Pinterest thingy that you MUST have. Then it will drive you insane if it doesn’t come out EXACTLY as you have seen online. CAUTION…BEWARE…DO NOT PASS GO!

3) DIY isn’t always the cheapest option. Items purchased in bulk are typically more affordable than those purchased one here and one there. So unless this is something the is being created or recreated on a consistent basis the cost per product will be more. Not to mention if you do not have a wholesale ID affording you the option to get these items at a cost savings then…$$$$$$$

4) DIY takes patience and time. Nobody move..no one talk to me… no one even think about breathing as I attempt to stripe this vase. Yeah… doesn’t sound fun to me either. I just grew another grey hair remembering that time that I tried to… you know what, I wont go there. Let’s move on

5) I just don’t want to

6) See #’s 1 and 5

AGAIN: Let me be clear, I APPLAUD those that are DIY’ers but it is completely okay if you are not the one. So brides, understand that while planners may have a love for most things wedding, it does not mean that everyone of us want to recreate it ourselves. There are vendors out there that have built up the skill (and patience) to handle these items in bulk and for a fraction of the cost that it would cost your planner to do it themselves. So yeah… it’s not a fun project for everyone.
DISCLAIMER: While I am not into DIY I will spray paint the heck out of anything. Oh yeah, and I’m mean with it too.
Photo: Courtesy of Pinterest

Planning: It aint no fun, if the homey can’t stress some.

At a wedding not so long ago, a friend acted as first assistant to the JunePlumm Events team. Though she is no stranger to weddings, she has never been on the “other side”. For a first timer, she was pretty darn amazing. She assisted the JPE team and the bride on her very special day and I thank her immensely. After I thanked her for the millionth time she responded by saying “WOW…I NEVER knew it was like this. I mean it always looks so pretty and easy but I never realized all of this happened behind the scenes”. I simply said YUP!

Events are no easy task. It takes a lot of hours, time, patience and stamina to get the job done. But some people think it is as easy as uno, dos, tres’. Which brings me to today’s post…Today I am going to give you a peak into Pandora’s box. Just so you are a little more aware of what it’s really like to be a Planner.

DISCLAIMER: The following is not only from my perspective, most of these apply to some of my planning buddies who have shared their stories. So former and present clients please don’t give me the side-eye and plot my slow painful “accidental” death. I puffy heart you all:).
Now for the good stuff:
  • Planners never always stress about an event. We too want it to go perfect for you. We want everyone to show up on time, all the centerpieces to look just as planned and everyone to be happy happy happy. But you know what they say, “it ain’t no fun if the homey can’t stress some“- wha, you haven’t heard that before – where have YOU been.
  • Planners and clients always see eye-to-eye sometimes disagree. Let’s face it, we are planners not psychics. We make suggestions and recommendations based on what we think is best for the client’s vision of their event. It doesn’t mean they will love everything and that’s okay. But if they hate everything…Houston, we have a problem.
  • After an event, planners and clients always sometimes stay friends. Lets face it some clients are crazy and we can’t wait to get rid of them. Yes it may sound harsh but bridezilla’s (or as a colleague puts it..exorcilla…aka exorcist + bridezilla = exorcilla) is not only a show, it’s real life. THANK GOD I have personally not had to deal with any but some of my friends can tell you stories that will make your head spin and then quit the business. The great part is, for every one bridezilla there are 100’s of amazing clients that you would love to remain social with. But sometimes, someone will make you want to help them pack and hold the door open so you can slam it really hard when they walk through it. 
  • Event Planning is fun and glamorous hard work and not as glamorous as it appears on TV. It can take 190+ hours to plan ONE event. The day of the event you suddenly become a mighty morphing power ranger and have to morph yourself into multiple personalities and be in more than one place at a time. All while looking like you have EVERYTHING under control and your heart is not racing a110 mph.
  • Event Planners have all received extensive training in the fine art of magic are not magicians. Yes we can poof-be-gone most event day mishaps, blunders and snafus. However, we simply cannot do anything about a hurricane on your wedding day, your groomsmen that show up drunk, or your orange bridal portraits from your aunts uncle’s sister’s boyfriend from round’da’way whom you hired to shoot your wedding because he has a “good camera”. We can’t do diddly squat about that.
  • Event Planners work 5 days a week between the hours of 9-5  9-5, 8-11, 7 -12 Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday & Sunday. No I’m not saying 7 days a week 24 hours a day. But our hours vary depending on the event and the client/planner relationship. And since most special events happen on the weekend…you can kiss some of those good-bye. Oh and while your at it, some clients feel that 2am is an appropriate time to ask their planner to clarify the difference between cream, eggshell and off white…oh and to be chipper and AWAKE while doing it. Sleep…puh-lease, who needs that.
  • Everyone LOVES an event planner. Some people can’t stand us. Brides, grooms, dj’s, catering hall managers, musicians, florists…other planners, need I go on? Don’t let me get too overly dramatic-too late huh. What I mean is we have some high bridges to cross. Some feel we are not worth the money, some feel we are not needed, some feel we are a road block to a signed contract because we always want to negotiate, some feel we don’t know what the heck we are doing and some feel we are all crooks and will run away with your money. Sigh… it’s all true, some of us are all of that and then some. But that is only SOME. Because of the few bad apples, some planners have to deal with allot of scrutiny before the respect starts to roll in. It comes with the territory.  
Still think it’s all peonies and bling? Well it isn’t BUT…it is all worth it (to me at least). The look on a clients face when they walk into the room and see that everything looks amazing. The sigh of relief you hear when your client realizes that they just had the BEST DAY EVER and had absolutely NOTHING to do with it. The smiles, thank you’s and OMG you are so amazing, you receive from friends, family, clients and on lookers. The feeling of gratitude that you were welcomed into the hearts and lives of a complete stranger who trusted you with such an important day and everything turned out A-O-K.

So no, it’s not all peonies and bling..but for most of us it is TOTALLY worth it!

Planning: Who Will Make The Cut?

Some of you may be excited with the idea of going dress shopping because I have show you a FAB dress that you must have. But do you know what to ask for when you actually hit the store or will you just say “hi, I want the dress that JunePlumm Events posted”? Yes a that may work (if you have a pic) but chances are the salesperson will want you to try on other dresses as well and therefore ask you what kind of dresses do you like? *insert confused face HERE*. So let me prep you a bit with a bit of dress cut/styles that you may identify with:

Sheath: Slinky, sexy, leaves NOTHING to the imagination. These types of dresses are made for the woman with a body that is slim trim and is ready to show it off. Usually made of a lighter fabric, a sheath dress is light airy and can be worn from the “I-do” to the “good-night”. keep in mind if you have ripples and rolls, and bulges and lumps this dress will show it. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Ball Gowns: Look out here she comes: We all know it when we see it because this gown is large and in charge! It is usually fitted to the waisted and then flares out from there.This gown is not for the meek or mild at all. This style gown can give you the look of a small waist (since everything below billows out) however it can give you an appearance of bigger hips too so choose wisely with this one.

Mermaid/Trumpet/Fit n Flare: These gown styles are often mis-quoted and it is confusing (sometimes) to figure out which is which (I mix them up all the time). The easiest way to differentiate the styles is the remind yourself of where the gown starts to flare. Meaning:

  • If it’s fitted to the knee and then begins to flare, then chances are it’s a Mermaid. If there is an extra panel in the back…it’s probably a Fishtail
  • If it’s fitted to the hips and then gradually begins to flare, it’s probably a Fit’n’Flare.
  • If it’s fitted to the thighs and then gradually begins to flare ( between the hips and the knees), it’s probably a Trumpet.
  • I use the term “probably” because designers/retailers may interchange the terminology.
A-Line: The all rounder…everyone’s homegirl because she is very figure flattering for mostly anyone. A great safe bet. This gown is fitted by the bust and bodice and gradually begins to flare to resemble an A (or a triangle). EXTRA great for those of us with a little tummy we want to camouflage. 

Does this help? Oh and also keep in mind…

  • Junk in your trunk…Ruching is your friend
  • Got melons…try a  a Basque Waist
  • Itty-bitty-titty-committee…Empire Waist is a best kept secret
  • Belly bulge…Corsets are your friend
Whatever you pick OWN IT! You will NOT please everyone. Someone will NOT like your gown. But if you like it,  I love it so make me believe it! Head high and feel every bit of fabulous that you are.

Planning: An Amenity for the Rest of the Room

Have you considered providing your guests with a amenity basket for ladies and men’s Restroom?  In case this is on your agenda, here are some items to consider for it:

Courtesy of BizBash

Lotion/Gel:

  • Pretty scented one for the ladies room & a more manly type for the men’s room
  • Skin softening type of lotion
  • Antibacterial Gel
Sweets:
  • Gum
  • TIc Tac
  • Peppermint
Grooming/Beauty:
  • Nail file
  • Nail cutter
  • Clear nail polish ( can double to fix those nasty pantyhose runs)
  • Kleenex Tissues
  • Hair Pins
  • Lint Brush
  • Safety Pins
  • Body Spray (Male & Female)
  • Hair spray/Gel

Other:

  • Sewing kit
  • Condoms (we are all adults right)
  • Tampons / Panty liners / Pads
  • Dental Floss
  • GasX / Antacids / Aspirin 
  • Candles
  • Shout Wipes
What’s important to remember is do not go overboard to buying every little thing you kinda sorta maybe think you need. This is an additional expense and you have to consider your budget when planning this amenity. Keep it simple, and shop from your local drug store mini bins to get most of these items. And for your pretty smelling things, I’d try Bath and Body Works, there is always a sale, always a special and always a coupon. To take it up a notch, try personalizing your packaging with custom labels or wrapping items with a fabric or paper that compliments your event decor.
So, is this something that you are considering for your event?

Planning: Dress for the Occasion

It’s very important that you dress wedding appropriate even if you are “just” the guest. Why? Because you are going to a wedding, not the corner store to buy some sugar and not the club to drop it like it’s hot.  If it were your wedding wouldn’t you want your guests to dress as if they are looking forward to the nuptials and they too put themselves together flawlessly. WELL then the same goes for you. 
Some things to think about:
  • If your dress is shorter than your fingernails then it is too short for the wedding.
  • If the bride and groom are party animals then chances are the wedding will be all about the music. So if you like to cut a mean rug, make sure your dress can move with your groove. Nothing worse than hearing great music and watching everyone hit the dance floor and you are stuck in your seat because your dress is stiff, tight but cute.
  • If you are invited to a day time wedding, it’s probably best that you skip the sequins long flowing gown with the matching tiara.
  • If you are close to the bride and you know the wedding colors are purple and peach, then maybe you should save those colors for the bridesmaids. Don’t assume that means you have to go out and buy a dress that is the color of the wedding. This may be an old school belief  (I still have some of those) but I still think it is one I intend to hold on to for another year or three. Unless the couple insists that you wear one of their wedding colors…just skip it.
  • It is totally okay to put on a cute summer dress. Just not if the wedding invite says “Formal”. Summer dresses are cute for informal daytime outdoor country side weddings.
  • A red dress is no longer reserved for the harlot that is having an affair with the groom (well maybe in certain parts of the country) but if you do wear red wear it tastefully.
  • By all means, say YES to the little black dress.
  • If you have a dress in your closet that you have worn to a wedding once in the past, use it again and just mix it up. Add newer jewelry, a scarf, a bold belt and/or a shoe the complete opposite color of the dress to make it new again. 
  • Pants are okay. If it is a dressy chic pant suit that fits the occasion. 
  • Black tie formal means…Black Tie Formal. DRESS UP!
  • How about we avoid the wardrobe malfunction and cover those “girls” up. I’m not saying you wear a turtleneck. What I am saying is keep it tasteful and the cleavage to a minimum.

Courtesy of Macy’s & Lord and Taylor

Whatever you choose to wear, make sure you are putting your best YOU forward. The bride and groom have carefully selected you to attend this very important time in their lives.  Make sure you dress the part.

Thanks to @TOG, a Fan on JunePlumm Events Page for asking this quetion. We hope we have helped you make your dress shopping decisions easier.

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Planning: Give me a Ring!

It’s April, THE most sparkling month of the year. I mean any month that has diamond as the birthstone has got to be the most awesometastic! And I’m NOT just saying that because my birthday is tomorrow (4 – 28)…nope, not at all. So in honor of my birth…I mean April. let’s dedicate this post to my favorite topic…DIAMOND Rings. More specifically for the bride. (I’ll tell you why later):

Which finger is the “Ring Finger”:

  • The ring finger is on the LEFT hand
  • Second finger in from the pinkie. Third finger in from the thumb (4th if you count the thumb as a “finger”…as I do)
  • Why this finger: Old tales believed that *the vein in this finger is directly connected to the heart and thus became a symbol of love #awwwwwww

The Engagement Ring…the BIG BLING:

  • Placed on “ring finger” until the wedding day
  • Etiquette states you don’t flash/flaunt the engagement ring until after the engagement has been officially announced
  • Reality says: flash it, flaunt it, love it, admire it. It’s yours bask in the beauty (don’t tell them i said that)


The Wedding Ring...it’s OFFICIAL:
  • Prior to vows: your engagement ring is placed on the right hand
  • Post vows: After your wedding band is placed on the “ring finger” you return the engagement ring to the left hand ring finger
  • Typically: the wedding band is on the inside (or closest to the hand) and the engagement ring is placed on the outside of the wedding band (closest to the nail)
The Anniversary Ring
  • Can be worn on the right hand or on the ring finger along with your wedding band and engagement ring. It’s your ring. Do what makes you comfortable
  • When is it appropriate to give an anniversary ring: The better question is when ISN’T it appropriate to give an anniversary ring. It is never too early or too late to show your appreciation with bling
NOW, WHY this post: Most of this information may seem like common knowledge but it isn’t be it fear, forgetfulness, or a shoulder shrug, I get asked most of these questions ALLOT. Enough for me to write a post about it. So just in case you were one of the many that wanted to know…your welcome:)

Quote: Courtesy of Wikipedia
Photo: Courtesy of De Beers

Planning: A Block of Color

If you are that trendy bride that likes to make a statement then this may be for you.

The hottest trend right now is neon colors/color blocking. For the 80’s babies this is just a blast from the past so you may be thinking this isn’t new at all. And you’re right it isn’t new, however it’s foray into the wedding industry isn’t common at all so let’s run with it shall we. This colorful statement has always been a love of mine (I love the bright extra pop of color) so I would encourage that if you are THIS bride then ROCK out to it!

Consider showcasing your trendiness into your wedding by keeping it simple-ish. Here me out. You don’t have to have EVERY aspect of your wedding in neon colors. As a matter of fact..please DO NOT make every aspect of your wedding neon. That is a headache for you and your guests waiting to happen. Instead, infuse a few items with this colorful trend: For instance

NEON: cake, shoes, bridesmaids dress, linens, flowers, wedding gown sash and gloves, stationary = *bbm angry face*

NEON: shoes, bridesmaids dress, brides bouquet, stationary, favors = *bbm smiley face*

A little bit goes a looooooooong way and makes a bigger statement! Besides, you want to love your wedding today tomorrow and for years to come. Not look back on it and say what the hell was I thinking!

SO, are you THIS bride?

Planning: Thursday is the new Saturday

Just a little note from the planner.

Brides/Grooms and wedding’s on a whole have taken on an entirely new life. They have evolved since the days our grandparents exchanged vows and will continue to do so. With this in mind, I want you savvy couples just beginning to get your planning underway to remember one thing ” if you book it…they will come”.
What this means is, YOU are planning your wedding based on your needs, your desires, your likes, your BUDGET. And with those factors in mind do not be suckered into feeling that you HAVE to get married on a Saturday evening at The Plaza because that is what you “think” your guests will expect. Your guests ( if they truly love, care and wish to celebrate you) will go to a wedding on a Sunday evening, or a Saturday morning, or a Thursday. Wherever your purse strings carry you. Lead with what you want most in your wedding day. Choose your venue based on what matters to you both the most. And if you feel that your desires are waaaaaay out of your budget at the venue of your dreams, don’t forget to ask the Sales manager if you can have the wedding there on a Tuesday or a Sunday or a Thursday. You will be amazed at what suddenly becomes affordable when you become a bit more flexible.
PS: If anyone complains about your “flexible” date, I would seriously consider re-evaluating your relationship with that guest. #JustSayin

Planning: Bigger doesn’t always mean Better…

I’ve seen it too many times. A BIG cake, BIG venue, BIG guest list, BIG money, BIG linens, BIG flowers…BIG BIG BIG…but bigger doesn’t always mean better.

Think about what is important to you. What would makes YOUR event a successful event. Is it your guests on the dance floor the entire night? Is it having to usher your guests out the door at the end of the night because they just REFUSE to leave? Or is it just surveying your room and seeing all your guests enjoying non-stop good food, socializing and smiling from ear to ear. Whatever it is, aim for that. Cater to what is going to make you happiest and don’t expect that just because you have all the BIG items…your guest will think it’s a Better event.
  • If you want your guests to dance the night away…Play the music they will love
  • If you want your guest to have to kick your guests out… Keep it light hearted, fun, festive, exciting and moving
  • If you want your guests eating, smiling and socializing… Seat people together whose personalities fit. Consider a heavy hors’d’oeuvres or a multiple course menu. Keep the eye view of your seated guests open so they can socialize. Walk around greet and keep the conversations going.
You know your guests…they are no different the day of your event than they are the day before. So keep that in mind when planning your day. After all you want the BIG event and not the BIG disappointment.

Planning: What To Expect When you are Expecting

Your best friend is engaged and expect you to play an integral part in your wedding…BUT, you just found out you are expecting… NOW WHAT! Well lucky for you, the old wives tail that expectant mothers should not take part in weddings is phooey. But before you say yes to the dress, consider the following:

  • Be honest, ensure the bride is fully aware that you are expecting. And if you are NOT comfortable with taking part in the wedding as a pregnant bridesmaid, then say so. There are plenty of ways for you to be a part of the event and show your love without walking down the aisle.
  • Be comfortable, do not constrain yourself in a garment that is restricted and does not breathe well. Consider the fabric of the dress and the time of year of the wedding.
  • Consider how far along you will be at the time of the wedding. The size you are now, is probably not the size you will be when you walk down the aisle as a bridesmaid. So inform the staff at the bridal salon that you are expecting. They will be knowledgeable enough to guide you in ordering the correct dress in the proper size. They may even suggest waiting until you are in a specific part of your pregnancy before ordering the bridesmaid dress
  • Wear comfy shoes. Let’s face it, your feet may swell up to the size of a balloon. So comfort is a necessity. NO EXCEPTIONS!
  • Consider the your due date and the date of the wedding. The wedding day is probably not the time for your to welcome your plus 1

All things considered, if you do decide to take part in the wedding, don’t stress over your size or weight or position (easier said than done I know). Just remember you are there for your friend, and it’s her moment. She will be sure to return the favor, love and attention when it is your moment…to welcome your beautiful baby boy or girl.