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Planning: WTF you mean you don’t need a Wedding Planner?

LEAN IN…

 

A Venue Coordinator is NOT THE SAME as a Wedding Planner. Let me say this again… A VENUE COORDINATOR IS NOT THE SAME AS A WEDDING PLANNER.

 

Whether you hire a Planner for full planning, partial planning, day of, month of, week of, 4 days out the week, every other Sunday, however you want to spin it, get you someone that is interested in YOUR wedding, YOUR needs YOUR design and not just the needs of the venue.

Listen, some venue coordinators are great they really are but they do not offer the same services that a dedicated Wedding Planner does. The venue only wants to make sure it flows how they want it to flow…their way. You want square tables, that venue is going to make those oblong tables sound like it’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than the square tables but guess what….IT’S not. But to the venue that already has countless oblong tables in stock why would they want to put in the extra work with switching that out. You will see how quickly the happy Venue Coordinator tells you “YOU will have to manage that“. The Venue Coordinator, is not going to ensure your ENTIRE day runs smoothly. I mean from make-up to the when the last vendor rolls out. The Venue Coordinator will not even blink until you reach the venue.  I don’t want to rain on your parade (too much) because when done right the partnership between a Venue Coordinator and a Wedding Planner can make a wedding day flow very nicely. Key phrase “On The Same Page“. But do not think the Venue Coordinator will fix all your problems from start to finish? No, that’s what the Wedding Planner is for.

 

So when you find that fabulous venue and they to tell you “you don’t need a planner, we can take care of all your needs ” find out what “all those needs” are exactly.  Because, If you need:

  • someone to ensure your family knows when to show up for hair make up and pre-ceremony photos
  • confirm load in and load out with all of your vendors
  • review music list with your DJ with reminders
  • to ensure the cinematographer knows when and where to go
  • to secure a room block
  • to ensure your dress is out the bag and ready for it’s close up
  • to make sure you don’t freak out when you can’t find your ruby woo lipstick for re-application
  • to make sure mom gets a hold of your money box for safe keeping
  • someone to answer all the annoying little questions like what time do you want dinner served, which table first, we are running late do you still want to do the money dance, what is a money dance…etc
  • the venue does NOT pre-plate the salad before your guests enter the room and are seated

…then you need a Wedding PLanner NOT a Venue Coordinator

Planning: 50 Shades of Marise – A Beautiful Birthday Party In Brooklyn

The first day I met Marise I was immediately attracted to her spirit and that infectious laugh of hers. So I was very excited to sit and chat with her one evening so she can tell me all about how she wanted to celebrate her 50th Birthday. She loves travel, Girl Scouts and designer bags…EMPHASIS on the designer bags. She wanted a black, white and blush black tie party that was fun and festive and showcased her love of… you guessed it, designer bags.

In lieu of having cut outs of purses all over the room we, with the help of LeTrice from LePenn Designs, incorporated some luxury paper with a designer finish, named her tables after her favorite designers and designed a logo so we can create stationary reminiscent of a designer logo bag (think Louis Vuitton with the LV all over the purse – if that makes any sense). Based on her wants, needs and desires we decided to host her Birthday party at Giando on the Water. She was sold on the view alone and the parking. If you know anything about Brooklyn, New York you know good parking and venues are unicorns in the hood. We spent over a year fine tuning the details and partnered with a vendor collective that worked beautifully together. I can’t wait to get the pictures back form Amy Anaiz Photography but for now take a peek at a few of my un-professionalphone photos:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stay tuned for more…

Planning: You Are Getting Married…Now What?

Congratulations! You are engaged now what?

 

Happy New Year. I am still feeling all mushy and gushy inside from all the proposal stories and videos I’ve seen and heard over the Christmas/New Year holiday. One newly engaged bride I had the pleasure of speaking with was in full on panic mode. OMG I’m engaged where do I start, what do I do, where do I look, who  do I call, I need a photographer, HELP ( no seriously that was the convo) . My response…okay breeeeeeeeathe. Let’s slow down a bit, it’s only the December 29th, you got engaged December 25th and you are not getting married tomorrow so let’s take a step back for a hot second and talk some things through:

 

  • Do you want to get married in 2017 or 2018?
  • Do you want a catering hall wedding or raw space wedding?
  • Are you getting married locally or destination?
  • Who is paying for the wedding?
  • What is your wedding budget?
  • How many guests are you inviting?
  • Traditional Wedding or a doing it your own way?
 
HER:INSERT panic mode AGAIN….
ME:Here have some wine

  
It’s clear that this particular bride, as are many others right now, had to sort through some things. And that is totally okay. At this point she doesn’t have to have all the answers yesterday. Just take a step back and allow yourself the opportunity to:
  1. Enjoying being a fiancée (floss that ring honey)
  2. Answer some key questions so when you get off your mark you have a clear direction of what you want to see at your finish line.
Thankfully my bride was able to relax a bit (4 days lol) and now she has a better hold on the direction of her raw space 2018 wedding and I’m ecstatic to help her.
 
How are YOU handling the stress


Planning: 6 Reasons You May Not Be A DIY Bride

I envy those people that get excited at the thought of picking up a tool or thingy or thingamajig or whodat or whatdowehavehere in the attempt to recreate an item that they have seen on Pinterest but refuse to buy because they can do it better. KU-DOS!!! I am NOT-THE-ONE. THERE…I said it…whew, what a load off ! There is a time and place for everything and while I commend those that have the patience and energy for it…JunePlumm Events does not for a number of reasons:

1) I just don’t want to

2) DIY isn’t always the easiest route. If you are like me, no patience for the perfectionism that it takes to create or recreate that totally awesome Pinterest thingy that you MUST have. Then it will drive you insane if it doesn’t come out EXACTLY as you have seen online. CAUTION…BEWARE…DO NOT PASS GO!

3) DIY isn’t always the cheapest option. Items purchased in bulk are typically more affordable than those purchased one here and one there. So unless this is something the is being created or recreated on a consistent basis the cost per product will be more. Not to mention if you do not have a wholesale ID affording you the option to get these items at a cost savings then…$$$$$$$

4) DIY takes patience and time. Nobody move..no one talk to me… no one even think about breathing as I attempt to stripe this vase. Yeah… doesn’t sound fun to me either. I just grew another grey hair remembering that time that I tried to… you know what, I wont go there. Let’s move on

5) I just don’t want to

6) See #’s 1 and 5

AGAIN: Let me be clear, I APPLAUD those that are DIY’ers but it is completely okay if you are not the one. So brides, understand that while planners may have a love for most things wedding, it does not mean that everyone of us want to recreate it ourselves. There are vendors out there that have built up the skill (and patience) to handle these items in bulk and for a fraction of the cost that it would cost your planner to do it themselves. So yeah… it’s not a fun project for everyone.
DISCLAIMER: While I am not into DIY I will spray paint the heck out of anything. Oh yeah, and I’m mean with it too.
Photo: Courtesy of Pinterest

Planning: You are bound to piss off someone

Twice this weekend I found myself telling two seperate brides the exact same thing, “You are bound to piss off someone while planning your wedding”. It isn’t becuase you are a mean (insert word the rhymes with itch HERE). It’s becuase friends, family and people have a set of expections from your wedding that is most likely different from yours.

  • You can’t invite EVERYONE
  • You can’t buy EVERYTHING
  • You probably won’t buy the dress someone wanted you to wear
  • You are not going to serve the food that everybody wanted to eat that day
  • Someone will want you to play hip hop when all you want to hear is RnB during the last half hour of the wedding

…and guess what, it’s okay. Whose wedding is this anyway? Im sorry I thought it was yours. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to completely ignore your guests and don’t consider them at all. Afterall, you are creating an experience for them as well. What I AM saying is, utimately you have to make the best decision that you know how to make and please don’t loose sleep over the fact that 1 guest/person will be pissed off becuase you did something that they may not approve of. *oops my bad*…and now we continue.

So while you are there on a tight budget mulling over if you should invite kids, friends of friends, colleagues that you don’t speak to but they are in the same office even though you can’t stand them… just say to yourself ” what would Jesus do”. WAIT, no don’t say that to yourself… look in your purse and say hmmmmmmmm now how far am I willing to make this dollar stretch?

Happy Planning