Planning: Thursday is the New Saturday

Just a little note from the planner.

Brides/Grooms and wedding’s on a whole have taken on an entirely new life. They have evolved since the days our grandparents exchanged vows and will continue to do so. With this in mind, I want you savvy couples just beginning to get your planning underway to remember one thing ” if you book it…they will come”.

What this means is, YOU are planning your wedding based on your needs, your desires, your likes, your BUDGET. And with those factors in mind do not be suckered into feeling that you HAVE to get married on a Saturday evening at The Plaza because that is what you “think” your guests will expect. Your guests ( if they truly love, care and wish to celebrate you) will go to a wedding on a Sunday evening, or a Saturday morning, or a Thursday. Wherever your purse strings carry you. Lead with what you want most in your wedding day. Choose your venue based on what matters to you both the most. And if you feel that your desires are waaaaaay out of your budget at the venue of your dreams, don’t forget to ask the Sales manager if you can have the wedding there on a Tuesday or a Sunday or a Thursday. You will be amazed at what suddenly becomes affordable when you become a bit more flexible.

PS: If anyone complains about your “flexible” date, I would seriously consider re-evaluating your relationship with that guest. #JustSayin

Planning: WTF you mean you don’t need a Wedding Planner?

LEAN IN…

 

A Venue Coordinator is NOT THE SAME as a Wedding Planner. Let me say this again… A VENUE COORDINATOR IS NOT THE SAME AS A WEDDING PLANNER.

 

Whether you hire a Planner for full planning, partial planning, day of, month of, week of, 4 days out the week, every other Sunday, however you want to spin it, get you someone that is interested in YOUR wedding, YOUR needs YOUR design and not just the needs of the venue.

Listen, some venue coordinators are great they really are but they do not offer the same services that a dedicated Wedding Planner does. The venue only wants to make sure it flows how they want it to flow…their way. You want square tables, that venue is going to make those oblong tables sound like it’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than the square tables but guess what….IT’S not. But to the venue that already has countless oblong tables in stock why would they want to put in the extra work with switching that out. You will see how quickly the happy Venue Coordinator tells you “YOU will have to manage that“. The Venue Coordinator, is not going to ensure your ENTIRE day runs smoothly. I mean from make-up to the when the last vendor rolls out. The Venue Coordinator will not even blink until you reach the venue.  I don’t want to rain on your parade (too much) because when done right the partnership between a Venue Coordinator and a Wedding Planner can make a wedding day flow very nicely. Key phrase “On The Same Page“. But do not think the Venue Coordinator will fix all your problems from start to finish? No, that’s what the Wedding Planner is for.

 

So when you find that fabulous venue and they to tell you “you don’t need a planner, we can take care of all your needs ” find out what “all those needs” are exactly.  Because, If you need:

  • someone to ensure your family knows when to show up for hair make up and pre-ceremony photos
  • confirm load in and load out with all of your vendors
  • review music list with your DJ with reminders
  • to ensure the cinematographer knows when and where to go
  • to secure a room block
  • to ensure your dress is out the bag and ready for it’s close up
  • to make sure you don’t freak out when you can’t find your ruby woo lipstick for re-application
  • to make sure mom gets a hold of your money box for safe keeping
  • someone to answer all the annoying little questions like what time do you want dinner served, which table first, we are running late do you still want to do the money dance, what is a money dance…etc
  • the venue does NOT pre-plate the salad before your guests enter the room and are seated

…then you need a Wedding PLanner NOT a Venue Coordinator

Parties: The Bride Said ‘NO’

How hilarious (okay well maybe not so hilarious) is it that a nervous groom worked up the nerves to propose to his girlfriend that he wants to spend the REST of his life with and she, in all her excitement says:

NO!

No, i’m not kidding. My bride said NO. hahahahahaha. I can laugh now because I know they exchanged vows but when I heard the story I clutched my pearls. It seems she was so excited and nervous and excited… and did I say EXCITED she barely heard a word he said and instead of shouting YES ( which I assumed she meant) she said NO. Luckily the groom finally got his yes (I think) and they were married on May 4, 2017 in a Harlem Renaissance themed affair. I will share lots more on this story later but for now I leave you with one of my favorite pictures from this beautiful wedding:

And please, allow me to thank the wonderful partners that made it possible to pull of this amazing wedding:

Teamwork makes the Dream Work

Parties: Niajah is a Big Girl Now

SO, uhhhm lean in…

It is totally okay to be super duper girlie and want a super duper girlie Sweet 16 AND have JunePlumm Events plan it for you. This is what Niajah wanted and THIS is what Niajah got. I LOVED that Niajah and her mom, Natasha, were not afraid to be frilly and girlie and pink and FUN! It’s even more awesome that I learned that New Jersey has an entire music scene that I was not ready for but I can dig! (someone slide me a mix tape please). Anyway, take a look at some of the highlights of this Super Sweet 16 wonderfully captured by Amy Anaiz Photography. Just wait till you see how STUNNING Niajah looked:

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I can’t take all the credit for this event. I have to thank the following for coming through on a day where it seems traffic stopped…LITERALLY:

 

See you at the next Fete!

 

Planning: When Wedding Themes Fight Back

So you have a theme. Butterflies, Tiffany & Co, Plains, Trains & Automobiles, Carnival… etc that’s fine. I love a good theme. HOWEVER, for the love of décor and the pupils in everyone’s eyes you DO NOT have to have the theme in EVERYTHING:
  • Invitations
  • Linens
  • Centerpieces
  • Favors
  • Clothes
  • Hair accessories
  • Food
  • Napkins,
  • Specialty drink
  • Chair
  • Chair Accessories
  • Lighting
…catch my drift? No? Well look at it this way, let’s say you are having a Tiffany & Co. themed wedding. WELL. don’t get:
  • Tiffany Blue table linen
  • Tiffany Blue napkins
  • Tiffany Blue chargers
  • Tiffany Blue ( dyed) flowers – they don’t grow this color
  • Tiffany Blue menu
  • Tiffany Blue diamond ribbon for décor EVERYWHERE ( because it’s classy)
  • Tiffany Blue chair cushion
  • Tiffany Blue chair sash
  • Tiffany Blue table number
  • Tiffany Blue votives
  • Tiffany Blue uplighting
Can you picture that? No really, close your eyes and try, i’ll wait……………………..……………………… hurts doesn’t it! NOW if you do something like:
  • Tiffany Blue linen
  • White napkins
  • Clear/Mirrored chargers
  • White flowers
  • White Menu with the typeface or details in Tiffany Blue
  • Black chiavari chair with white chair cushion ( why black you ask? Well.. why not. mix it up a little)
  • Tiffany Blue color table number with white details
  • Silver mercury or plain sheer votives
  • Hurricane Candles
  • Burn the Tiffany Blue diamond wrap
  • Tiffany Blue Gift box Favor
  • Amber up lighting and switch to Tiffany Blue for the tun up time.
Go ahead picture it. I’ll wait……………………..…………………………………………………………….. you see the difference. Hurts less doesn’t it.
You can get your point across without the overkill. A little bit here and a little bit there goes a long long loooooooooong way. So take it easy on the theme and the theme will be very good to you. Trust me on this:)
Happy Planning:)
Imagine By: AMG Fotography

Planning: Your Wedding Circle

It is VERY… let me stress VERY important to keep your bridal circle limited to ONLY those that are truly happy for you. Imagine, on your wedding day your Maid of Honor is fussing with you because you are taking too long and she has things to do. Imagine NO ONE is saying “ WOW… you look beautiful”.  Imagine NO ONE is helping you zip up your gown but instead they look at you and say “well, what do you want me to do”. Imagine, NO ONE is lighting your cigar… while everyone in the room is taking selfies with YOUR STASH. Imagine, your glass is empty and everyone has their thirst quenched… just imagine.  

Brides & Grooms: Every friend is NOT your friend. And while you want everyone to be insanely happy for you some people are just not… and that is okay. But tell you what, don’t surround yourself with them in life and least of all on your wedding day. That is the one day you should be placed high on the pedestal and treated like the king/queen you are (DISCLAIMER: this is NOT in invitation to be a “—–“ zilla (fill in the blank)), but this is also not the time to be reminded of how jealous or miserable someone else is. Keep your circle limited and full of positive people that ONLY wish you well.  Even if that means cutting out some folks that will not be happy to be cut out (family included).

You deserve the moment to shine…TAKE IT 

 

Planning: Let the Bride and Groom Live!

I am sure in one of my previous blog posts I have discussed this before but during a conversation with a friend this morning I realized it is worth bringing it up again. 

 This is a friendly message to the bridal party:

  • It is NOT your wedding. I repeat.  IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING. Therefore, if your bride and groom want to select navy blue for the bridal party to wear but blue is NOT your favorite color…who cares, IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING
  • If your bride decides that she would like her bridesmaids to have nude nail polish but you are really into the neon right now…who cares,  IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING
  • If the groom decides he wants all the fellas in argyle socks for a cool sock shot but you are more of a silk taupe sock kinda guy…who cares, IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING
  • If you think the bride couple should have a cigar bar because you think it is cool but the couple is against it because they are not smokers…who cares, IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING

 …You catch my drift.

 Time and time again I hear stores and witness bridesmaids and groomsmen interjecting their personal feelings, wishes and beliefs on a couple’s wedding. The poor couple, trying to be nice and avoid being labeled a ‘zilla says nothing but inside it is driving them crazy.

 Are you really in it to celebrate the couple or are you in it for you? If you are in it for the couple then the above shouldn’t apply. If are in it for you…you should just be a guest.   

 And to my couples, you know your friends/family. Who they are out of your wedding is who they will be in your wedding. Be selective and choose wisely.

 Happy Marrying

Planning: 50 Shades of Marise – A Beautiful Birthday Party In Brooklyn

The first day I met Marise I was immediately attracted to her spirit and that infectious laugh of hers. So I was very excited to sit and chat with her one evening so she can tell me all about how she wanted to celebrate her 50th Birthday. She loves travel, Girl Scouts and designer bags…EMPHASIS on the designer bags. She wanted a black, white and blush black tie party that was fun and festive and showcased her love of… you guessed it, designer bags.

In lieu of having cut outs of purses all over the room we, with the help of LeTrice from LePenn Designs, incorporated some luxury paper with a designer finish, named her tables after her favorite designers and designed a logo so we can create stationary reminiscent of a designer logo bag (think Louis Vuitton with the LV all over the purse – if that makes any sense). Based on her wants, needs and desires we decided to host her Birthday party at Giando on the Water. She was sold on the view alone and the parking. If you know anything about Brooklyn, New York you know good parking and venues are unicorns in the hood. We spent over a year fine tuning the details and partnered with a vendor collective that worked beautifully together. I can’t wait to get the pictures back form Amy Anaiz Photography but for now take a peek at a few of my un-professionalphone photos:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stay tuned for more…

Planning: You Are Getting Married…Now What?

Congratulations! You are engaged now what?

 

Happy New Year. I am still feeling all mushy and gushy inside from all the proposal stories and videos I’ve seen and heard over the Christmas/New Year holiday. One newly engaged bride I had the pleasure of speaking with was in full on panic mode. OMG I’m engaged where do I start, what do I do, where do I look, who  do I call, I need a photographer, HELP ( no seriously that was the convo) . My response…okay breeeeeeeeathe. Let’s slow down a bit, it’s only the December 29th, you got engaged December 25th and you are not getting married tomorrow so let’s take a step back for a hot second and talk some things through:

 

  • Do you want to get married in 2017 or 2018?
  • Do you want a catering hall wedding or raw space wedding?
  • Are you getting married locally or destination?
  • Who is paying for the wedding?
  • What is your wedding budget?
  • How many guests are you inviting?
  • Traditional Wedding or a doing it your own way?
 
HER:INSERT panic mode AGAIN….
ME:Here have some wine

  
It’s clear that this particular bride, as are many others right now, had to sort through some things. And that is totally okay. At this point she doesn’t have to have all the answers yesterday. Just take a step back and allow yourself the opportunity to:
  1. Enjoying being a fiancée (floss that ring honey)
  2. Answer some key questions so when you get off your mark you have a clear direction of what you want to see at your finish line.
Thankfully my bride was able to relax a bit (4 days lol) and now she has a better hold on the direction of her raw space 2018 wedding and I’m ecstatic to help her.
 
How are YOU handling the stress


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